MonogamE/MonogaU

This is from Google’s AI Overview when I asked if humans are meant to be monogamous.

“According to scientific consensus, humans are not strictly ‘meant’ to be monogamous based on biology alone; while we tend to form pair bonds and live in couples, our natural inclination leans more towards ‘social monogamy,’ which means that while we usually live in pairs, some sexual activity outside the relationship may occur; this is supported by the fact that only a small percentage of mammals are truly monogamous.”

Well hot damn, I am completely crushed. My whole life I’ve believed in true love and fairytales, even when things crashed down around me, and up until this day, I still believed. But I don’t anymore.

I set out to write this blog as proof that a few male friends who have stated that we are not meant to be monogamous were wrong and now I’m not only blown away, but I’m also shattered.

For me, this means Cinderella was probably not the “be all and end all” for her prince. None of these fairytale women were. And I guess the princes may not have been the only ones for their women. This is so depressing to me. If I were to meet someone I truly cared about, I now know I’d never be enough. Because we weren’t meant to be enough for just one person. So why do we continue to perpetuate this lie?

Before everyone jumps all over me, I want you to understand that I know there are many men and women who deeply love and remain loyal to their partners despite an occasional wandering eye. After all, everyone is human. But human has taken on a new meaning for me now and I have to accept the fact that the sun won’t rise and set just around me in the eyes of my man, who doesn’t exist by the way, but that’s not the point.

I’ve watched some television shows where the concept of being polyamorous has been depicted and I guess that’s similar to having an “open” marriage or relationship, the difference being your partner in a polyamorous relationship can be any gender, as I understand it.

Well folks, this is just not for me. I’m not secure enough to be comfortable that the person I love won’t dump my sorry ass as he explores someone else’s potentially better ass. I’m just way too jealous, but even more than that, what I learned today redefines love in my eyes and my heart, and I no longer believe anyone will ever think I’m his special person and how fortunate he is to have me. I’m just another fish in what appears to be a very disappointing sea.

I want to be clear that this blog is not meant for anyone to fix me, but I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts about this topic.

Oh, and . . . Happy New Year!